The Question That Will Help You Hold on to Your Dream

Valerie Jégo Marsh
3 min readMar 27, 2021

We often give up on our plans too soon. Consider this one question that will help you keep going when the going gets tough.

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Do you have a big, audacious dream?

We must hold on to our dreams to make them happen! We often get fired up at the beginning and we start strong. Sometimes though, as time goes by, our efforts wind down and we give up, discouraged.

There could be a number of reasons why we didn’t achieve our goal: lack of preparation, lack of systems and plans, difficult circumstances, obstacles. But what if we did have a good plan, systems, motivation and discipline? Why did we quit?

Fight the perfect image

We are often told to visualize the desired outcome and our success and that can be useful. However, this tends to create a perfect image that we are eager to reach as soon as possible. We know there will be obstacles on the way there, but there is one we failed to prepare for: disappointment in the first results. The dreams of looking and feeling good, the dreams of being our own boss, the dreams of being recognised in a job, the dreams of meeting the right person, all gone because the first results didn’t live up to our expectations.

Disappointment can feel unbearable. It’s not that we expect miracles, it’s that we know what a good outcome looks like and we also need some encouragement along the way and good results are the best encouragement we could have.

We must prepare for the discrepancy between that perfect image we visualized and the disappointing results we get at the beginning.

Here is a brilliant piece of advice by Ira Glass from his perspective as a storyteller, but you can adapt it to any goal from fitness to dating I think.

“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple of years, you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most…

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Valerie Jégo Marsh

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