I am on a mission to bring some honesty back into the public discourse and it starts with saying no to the make-believe advice on daily routines.

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As someone who grew up before the internet, I embrace it for the goldmine of information it is. One click and you will know whatever you want. That’s amazing! Where it becomes problematic is when advice is disingenuous. I have nothing against anyone making a lot of money from their advice but I ask them to be honest. You will not become successful because you get up at 5:00 am.

Following Elon Musk’s Routine Is Not Going to Turn You Into the New Elon Musk (if That’s What You Want!)

There are many…

Living out loud is as much about making our voice heard as listening and amplifying our inner voice.

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“If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, will answer you: I am here to live out loud.”

Émile Zola

I’ve been thinking about the idea of voice lately, reflecting on the fact that I am able to assert myself with determination in some situations and become voiceless in others. Maybe you’ve experienced this as well. …

Are you going in the right direction with the correct tools?

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Whether our first quarter was great or disappointing, we have to strategise now for the next three months and the rest of the year. This is not a business numbers review; it’s about you and what you want.

For background, I am assuming you have set yearly goals maybe — hopefully! — derived from long term goals. If you haven’t, do it now; visualize what you want your life to be like in a few years time; from that vision, set goals that need to happen by the end…

Five tricks to bust fears and blocks inspired in part by Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic. #3 Perfectionism Is Fear in High Heels

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There is a myth of martyrdom surrounding creators; some elements might be the starving artist, the misunderstood, the marginal, the elusive muse, the isolation, etc. Living from your creativity is not a requirement. If it’s painful, just don’t do it! There are millions of other things you could be doing. However, if you want to or have to create, let me share a few tricks that might make the journey a little easier for you.

#1 Find Your Tool

In Big Magic…

We often give up on our plans too soon. Consider this one question that will help you keep going when the going gets tough.

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Do you have a big, audacious dream?

We must hold on to our dreams to make them happen! We often get fired up at the beginning and we start strong. Sometimes though, as time goes by, our efforts wind down and we give up, discouraged.

There could be a number of reasons why we didn’t achieve our goal: lack of preparation, lack of systems and plans, difficult circumstances, obstacles. But what if we did have a…

Why are we so quick to dismiss praise? Let me persuade you to welcome it because I know that you deserve it.

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If the title of this article had been, “You’re doing a great job!”, tell me honestly, would you have clicked on it? Chances are many would have thought, “No, I’m not.” and would have ignored it. Most of us don’t believe we deserve praise. Look at the way we dismiss compliments.

You are not to blame

Praise is not easy to accept from someone else and it is even harder to give it to ourselves. Blame society, your family, your religion or your…

If the thought of finding out your divine purpose sends you into a spiral of self-doubt and anxiety, you may have fallen into the purpose trap!

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You wander in a space where all of the “shoulds” crowd your mind and you wonder if you’ll ever have it all figured out.

There isn’t a day when I don’t see a course, a book or an article on it when I’m online. The truth is it isn’t such a big deal. It isn’t some big issue you need to solve. …

If you suffer from self-doubt, here is what I want you to know.

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I really think many creatives are too bright for their own good. They have high standards, great critical thinking skills and knowledge, but those end up backfiring on them rather than serving them as formidable assets. They overanalyse their work without ever getting certainty about their value. Unlike many other jobs when you know if you have done it to the given criteria, there is no formula, no guidebook to assess creative work.

It doesn’t help that our society showcases artists and successful people as the exception…

Why you should create a morning routine and track it.

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I am as undisciplined as the next person so I have created rules, guard rails and routines to make sure that I don’t waste my life away. It isn’t about productivity as such, although it is about that as well; it has more to do with the growing sense that life is finite and I only have that much time available left. Do I really want to spend it watching pundits talk about politics (I used to) or jumping from one Amazon recommendation to another for hours (easily done!)?

Morning routines for the undisciplined


You know when and how to upgrade your phone; here’s how to upgrade yourself.

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Over the years, I have read countless books, taken workshops and courses, hired coaches and been on retreats. The most radically powerful and juicy idea I have come across, is a change of identity.

Identity is described by James Clear in Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones as what you believe. Changing your identity therefore is “changing your beliefs, assumptions and biases: your worldview, your self-image, your judgements about yourself and others.

Your behaviours are usually a…

Valerie Jégo Marsh

Life coach. Loves ☕️ 📚🖋 🎨 🧘🏻‍♀️ A Parisian exiled in London for preferring tea to coffee 🇫🇷🇬🇧 http://valeriemarsh.com/love-notes-sign/

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