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8 Steps to Overcoming Comparison
“Comparison is an act of violence against the self”. Ivanla Vanzant
Here is a quick guide to help you stop being your own worst bully.
We all feel under pressure to achieve a certain level of success and we don’t want to be seen as less successful than our peers, friends or family. Too often, we associate success with income and material goods. But the truth is we all make very different choices. Take three couples who earn the same income. One is childless and likes to spend their money on good restaurants, nice cars and exotic holidays. The second couple has two children and has decided to send their children to fee-paying schools because their children’s education comes first. They drive the same family car for years, they don’t often go out and tend to holiday in the country, maybe staying with family or friends. The third couple likes to plan for the future. They have saving plans for their kids’ weddings, university studies, emergencies, pensions, etc. It would be very easy to conclude that the first couple has a higher income because of the lavish lifestyle. In reality, the three lifestyles reflect priorities and values that are very different. So the next time you feel yourself going down the path of comparison, follow these steps.
Step 1: Remember your values, priorities and decisions. No one’s life is perfect but real pain…
